My step mom (don’t ask) got married here http://www.lincourtwines.com/Private-Events. Very nice location, well priced, fun outdoor dance floor. Los Olivos/Ballard area. The highlight was whole family and friends stayed in a motel in Santa Inez the night before that horseshoed around a large lawn area and we all brought our dogs and hung out at night around bonfire.
Cottonwood Canyon in Santa Maria does weddings. They make good Chards. Depending on the time of year, their grounds can be beautiful. Check out their website.
Not sure that Melville does many marriages anymore . . . they are only allowed to do a few events a year . . .
I would contact Rusack along Ballard Canyon - not sure if they hold weddings but a great spot. You could also reach out to Michael Larner at Larner Vineyards - I know they have hosted a few things in the past and it’s a wonderful rustic setting as well.
Other than that, reach out to Gainey, Fess Parker (!), Firestone and perhaps Roblar for the potential for having weddings. Some I know definitely hold them - some may or may not . …
Bridlewood in Santa Ynez is pretty spectacular for weddings. They used to be a high-end Arabian horse ranch, and they have a pond in the back with swans in it.
My Brother in law got married at South Coast a few years ago. It was reasonably price and very pretty. They also have very nice suites to stay in at the hotel. The only bad thing is that you have to drink their wine.
No longer true. South Coast is making really good wines. They have won the Golden Bear Trophy as the best winery in Calif for the last two years from the Calif. State Fair wine competition.
My fiancee and I are booked at Sunstone for our wedding this fall. The venue is great for a smaller group (we’re planning around 70) with stunning views of the mountains and a great “cave” for the reception. Jenna (the events coordinator) at the winery has been great to work with.
We had a trade event in Temecula last month, South Coast has a barrel room under the main restaurant which is set up extremely well for a reception. Wilson Creek also has a new facility which they call a conference center, but with a restaurant on site it would also work. There are plenty of other choices as well, almost everyone in Temecula wants this type of business.
Falkner has a restaurant which is closed for dinner, so you can use it for private events as well.
The wine is certainly better in Santa Ynez, but much less choice when it comes to venues, I think others have covered the choices well enough already.