Oenotri for in-town Napa. Jeanty is in Yountville, so assuming Yountville is fair game, then Redd Wood. I only go there for lunch, but pizza/pasta/salad/meal-sized appetizers there cannot be beat for a nice lunch. There were 5 of us there recently, and we ordered a bunch of stuff to be shared around the table. Everybody enjoyed all the food.
If UpVAlley is in the itinerary, then the hands-down choice is Solbar at Solage Resort here in Calistoga. Can’t go wrong there with any menu choice, and it has the advantage of being a hotel, so there is non-stop food service from breakfast through late evening, complete with outdoor dining for those who enjoy that.
My daughter and I really enjoy the Lucky Pig, but once a year or so is plenty for me. This place is just under a mile from my place, so I hop in with some regularity. If I had to say what not to miss, it would be the fish tacos. Just yesterday a fellow Berserker was here and mentioned that menu item - still in his memory. Their soups are always outstanding, as well.
Had dinner at La Toque recently with friends from out of town, very good but didn’t blow us away like Cyrus did when we all ate there last year. They also ate at French Laundry and Redd on this trip and said Redd was the one they enjoyed the most.